We give you some advice on what to do after a breakup. Hopefully it can help you heal yourself and soon overcome the chaotic emotions in your heart.

1. ALLOW YOURSELF TO Grief

Relief, disappointment, hurt, sadness… all are completely normal reactions to the end of a relationship. When you escape by ignoring the pain and forcing yourself to be happy, not only will your inner wound not be resolved, but at some point it will come back to attack you more intensely. So learning to accept and deal with brokenness, allowing yourself to experience your emotions without judgment is also an important part of the healing process. Don’t forget to remind yourself that these feelings won’t last forever. Only through suffering can we understand the value of happiness.

2. DON’T BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX

There are still many couples who choose to continue maintaining their friendship after breaking up. However, when the wounds have not healed, being friends with that person will only prolong the pain. Furthermore, trying to stay connected with your ex can also stem from the hope that one day the two of you can get back together. Therefore, to prevent yourself from falling into an ambiguous relationship with many unrealistic thoughts, temporarily disconnect and temporarily stop following them on social networking platforms. It’s not necessary to see each other as strangers or enemies, but be friends when you’ve both healed the wounds from the past. Additionally, setting boundaries for both of you will also give you space to heal, focus on yourself, and continue your life journey.

3. YOU SHOULD NOT GET BACK TO YOUR EX

In times of weakness, loneliness or feeling insecure in new relationships, many people often think about getting back with their ex. However, if you both get back together but the reasons for the rift are still not resolved, maybe at some point, you two will have conflicts again and break up because of the same things.

So, instead of indulging your emotions, let’s definitely let go to heal the broken pieces in your heart. You should focus on personal development and devote your energy to work, loved ones or personal interests. There are still many better things waiting for you ahead.

4. WRITE A DIARY

Writing a diary is also a solution to help heal psychologically in the post-breakup period. You can spend 15-20 minutes early in the morning or before going to bed every day for writing, because these are the times when your mind is in the most relaxed and clear state, from which you can easily write. Contemplate what is going on in life as well as the emotions you are hiding in your soul. You can write about your feelings, about the bad points and the good things about your past love. Gradually, writing a diary will help you realize the root cause of the problem, you know how to accept everything as it is and then let go gently.

5. FIND YOURSELF

If we don’t know how to love properly, we easily tend to forget or lose ourselves. At that time, our joy, sadness, and all our emotions are placed on the other person. You can put aside your own desires and needs for the sake of your partner to please the other half. Therefore, see the breakup as an opportunity to reflect and focus on hobbies and interests that you did not have the opportunity to do in your previous relationship. You can spend time enjoying foods and drinks you haven’t tried in a while, reading books, pursuing your favorite style, exploring new lands or making plans to meet friends. When you find a version of yourself, you can open your heart again and allow yourself to connect and meet new people, and maybe you will find a place that is right for you. 

6. DON’T LIVE FOREVER WITH THE WORDS “IF IF”

Relationships, good or bad, those who choose to stay or leave, give us many lessons. No matter what, we all become much more mature after those relationships. However, living in the past with torment and resentment can be a big obstacle for you on your journey to healing and finding happiness. No one can change the past, so instead of living forever with the word “what if”, we are forced to accept that this relationship has really ended, that both of us have good points. both bad and bad, learn from past experiences and avoid repeating them in the future.

7. DON’T BUY INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP

Don’t rush to find a new relationship just because you’re afraid of loneliness or want to forget your ex. Learn to appreciate and love yourself before giving love to someone else, because no one can understand and be responsible for your life but yourself. Quality is always more important than quantity. Therefore, instead of wasting time on short-lived relationships, focus on cultivating and developing yourself both physically and intellectually, from there your energy frequency will be enhanced, helping you attract healthy and positive relationships into your life. Love when your heart and soul are completely calm.

8. FORGIVE

Forgiving others is also forgiving yourself. You will feel more peaceful and happier if you can let go of bitterness and resentment in the past. When all the storms pass, you will appreciate more what is present and be grateful for what has happened. Without ups and downs, we would not understand the true value of life. Thanks to the stumbles and hurts, we can have a more perfect version.